Post 1079 - Here is Something to Consider....
Posted by Sherry S. Andrews - Career & College Wise on 10/31/2018 3:00:00 AM
Career & College Wise Wednesday, October 31, 2018
Post 1079 - Here is Something to Consider....
Email: ccw@lee.k12.nc.us
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Recently, I had a parent call me begging me to help her daughter with the college application process. We met, and I immediately began to understand the mother's frustrations. As I talked with this young lady, I discovered that she was applying to only the schools that her friend was applying to, and she had absolutely no idea if the school had a major in the area she wanted to pursue because she had done absolutely no research to even know what majors were offered at the college. Sound familiar?
This situation is not unusual; some students feel that they can only go to a college where their best friend is going. Most often, when this type of issue has occurred and been followed through with, the tag along student is never happy and ends up doing poorly and eventually dropping out of college. Friendships are destroyed and unhappiness and discontent reigns.
First, this student needs her own list of colleges to attend. These schools need to be schools she has researched, and ones that house her desired major.
Second, this student needs to realize that she does not need her best friend to be successful. In this particular situation, college is not a tag along outing. Frankly, it is a calculated and well thought out decision based on facts and what is truly best for the student both academically and socially.
One of the main topics I discuss with groups of students or groups of parents in this panacea of college search is selecting the college that best suits you - the individual, not me and my friend. College selection is an individual choice where the student can embrace each aspect of the educational process that makes him/her the very best that he/she can be.
Ironically, both of my children chose colleges with an uncharted path by anyone they knew or by anyone alongside them that they knew. Were they anxious to be the only one from their high school at their selected college - probably - but in the end, it was definitely the best choice they ever made. College is about new beginnings and new friendships. Challenge your child to find their own path; challenge your child to create their own journey. It is a rewarding experience for both the student and the parent!
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